Questions to Ask Your Crush to Actually Get to Know Them

Talking to your crush is hard enough without your brain going completely blank. These 75 questions get you past “hey” and “how was your day” and into an actual conversation, from easy openers to the deeper ones you save for when you’re closer.

The best questions are the ones you’re genuinely curious about. Pick a few that sound like you, ask a follow-up (“wait, why?”), and share your own answer too. A conversation is a back and forth, not an interview.

Easy questions to start a conversation

Low pressure, easy to answer, good for in person or the first few texts.

1. What are you listening to lately?
2. What’s the best thing that happened to you this week?
3. Are you more of a morning person or a night person?
4. What do you usually do on weekends?
5. What’s your go-to snack?
6. Seen anything good lately? Show, movie, video, anything.
7. What’s your favorite class, and which one do you just survive?
8. Do you have any pets?
9. What’s your comfort food?
10. What are you looking forward to this month?
11. Summer or winter?
12. What did you think of the test?
13. What’s something you’re weirdly good at?
14. Coffee, tea, or neither?
15. What’s the last thing you laughed really hard at?

Fun questions to ask your crush

For when the conversation is going and you want to keep it light.

16. If you could have any superpower for one day, what would you pick?
17. What would your walk-up song be?
18. Would you rather explore space or the deep ocean?
19. What’s the most random thing in your room right now?
20. If you had to eat one food for the rest of your life, what is it?
21. What’s your most controversial food opinion?
22. Which fictional world would you live in?
23. What’s the worst movie you secretly love?
24. If you could instantly be an expert at something, what would it be?
25. What would you do with a totally free Saturday and $100?
26. Which animal do you think you’d be?
27. What’s your most-used emoji?
28. What’s a trend you just don’t get?
29. If you started a YouTube channel, what would it be about?
30. What’s the best Halloween costume you’ve ever had?

Questions to get to know your crush

These help you find out who they really are, beyond school.

31. What’s something you could talk about for hours?
32. Who’s your favorite person in your family?
33. What do you want to do after high school?
34. What’s a place you really want to travel to?
35. What’s something most people don’t know about you?
36. What are you proud of right now?
37. How do you like to spend time when you need to recharge?
38. What’s a hobby you’ve always wanted to try?
39. What’s your favorite memory from when you were a kid?
40. Who’s someone you really look up to?
41. What’s a song that means a lot to you?
42. What’s the best advice you’ve ever gotten?
43. What makes a good friend, in your opinion?
44. What’s a goal you’re working on?
45. What’s your favorite way to spend a day off?

Deeper questions, for when you’re actually close

Save these for when you’ve talked a lot and it feels comfortable. Answer them too.

46. What’s something you’ve changed your mind about this year?
47. When do you feel most like yourself?
48. What’s something that always cheers you up on a bad day?
49. What’s a fear you have that seems silly but isn’t?
50. What do you think people get wrong about you?
51. What’s one thing you want to get better at?
52. What does a really good day look like for you?
53. What’s something you wish more people asked you about?
54. What’s a moment that changed you a little?
55. What do you value most in the people you’re close to?
56. What are you most excited about for the future?
57. What’s something you’re grateful for right now?
58. What’s a small thing that means a lot to you?
59. How do you know you can trust someone?
60. What’s something you’d tell your younger self?

Questions to ask your crush over text

Short, easy to reply to and good for keeping a chat going.

61. Ok important question: best pizza topping?
62. What are you up to right now?
63. Rate your day from 1 to 10. Go.
64. Send me the last song you listened to
65. What’s something good that happened today?
66. Any plans for the weekend?
67. Wait, did you finish the homework?
68. What’s a show I should watch next?
69. Cats or dogs, final answer?
70. What’s on your mind right now?
71. What was the best part of your day?
72. What’s a video that made you laugh this week? Send it
73. If you could teleport anywhere right now, where would you go?
74. What are you craving right now?
75. What’s something you’re looking forward to tomorrow?

How to ask without it being awkward

• Start light. Begin with the easy questions and only go deeper when the conversation is flowing and you’ve talked a few times.
• Listen to the answer. The follow-up question shows you actually care. “No way, how did you get into that?” goes a long way.
• Share back. If they answer, answer too. Otherwise it feels like a quiz.
• Watch their energy. Long answers and questions back mean they’re into the conversation. One-word replies might mean now isn’t a good time.
• Keep it comfortable. If a question makes them uneasy, drop it and move on. Nobody owes you an answer to anything personal.

Wondering if they like you back? Read our guide to the signs a guy likes you.

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