How to Stop Overthinking Everything (Especially at Night)
Overthinking feels like solving something, but it's usually going in circles. 7 techniques therapists use, including worry time, plus what to do at 1 a.m.
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It’s 1 a.m. You’re replaying something you said in third period, picturing every way tomorrow could go wrong and wondering what that “k” text really meant. You’re exhausted, and your brain won’t stop.
Overthinking feels like you’re solving something. Usually you’re just going in circles. Here’s how to stop overthinking everything, especially at night, with techniques that therapists actually use.
Overthinking vs. thinking it through
Thinking something through moves you toward a decision or an action. Overthinking loops. You go over the same thought again and again, and you end up exactly where you started, just more stressed.
A quick test: after 10 minutes of thinking about it, do you know what to do next? If yes, that’s problem-solving. If you just feel worse, that’s overthinking.
The NHS splits worries into two kinds: problems you can actually do something about, and “hypothetical” worries that are out of your control. That split is the key to most of the techniques below.
How to stop overthinking: 7 things that help
1. Ask: can I do anything about this?
If yes, decide on the first small step and when you’ll do it. “I’ll text her tomorrow at lunch and ask if we’re okay.” Then your brain has a plan and can let go a little.
If no, like what someone else thinks, what might happen in a month or something that already happened, remind yourself that more thinking won’t change it.
2. Give your worries an appointment
This is called worry time, and it’s a technique therapists use a lot. The child and adolescent mental health service at Oxford Health NHS suggests setting aside 20 to 30 minutes a day:
- Pick a time, ideally earlier in the evening and not in bed.
- When a worry pops up during the day, write it down and tell yourself, “Not now. Later.”
- At worry time, go through the list. For each one, ask if there’s anything you can do.
- If not, cross it out. If yes, write down possible solutions, pick one and plan when you’ll do it.
Often, by the time worry time comes around, some of those worries already feel smaller.
3. Write it down
A thought in your head loops. A thought on paper just sits there, where you can look at it. Do a “brain dump”: write every worry, one per line, without editing. Need more structure? Try these journal prompts for when your head is too loud.
4. Name the thought as a thought
Instead of “Everyone thinks I’m weird,” try “I’m having the thought that everyone thinks I’m weird.” It sounds small, but it puts a little space between you and the thought. It’s an idea your brain is offering, not a fact.
5. Check the evidence
Overthinking loves worst-case scenarios. Ask yourself:
- What do I actually know, and what am I guessing?
- What would I tell a friend who was thinking this?
- What’s the most likely outcome, not the worst one?
- Will this matter in a week? A year?
Spoiler: most people aren’t analyzing you as closely as you think. More on that in how to stop caring what people think.
6. Get out of your head and into your body
You can’t think your way out of a thought loop, but you can interrupt it. Go for a walk, take a shower, do something with your hands, or try a grounding skill like 5-4-3-2-1: name 5 things you see, 4 you can touch, 3 you hear, 2 you smell and 1 you taste. There are more in our list of coping skills for bad days.
7. Make a decision and stop reopening it
Some overthinking is really decision-avoiding. Which outfit, which class, whether to text him. Give yourself a deadline, pick, and then treat it as done. Most small decisions aren’t big enough to deserve an hour.
How to stop overthinking at night
Night is when overthinking hits hardest, because there’s nothing else to distract you. A few things that help:
- Do worry time earlier. Oxford Health stresses working through worries outside of bedtime. If something pops up in bed, write a one-line note and save it for tomorrow.
- Keep a notebook by your bed for exactly that.
- Put your phone away. Scrolling feeds the loop, and checking the time makes it worse. Here’s how to stop doomscrolling.
- Give your brain something boring to do. Name an animal for every letter of the alphabet, or count backward from 300 by threes.
- Get up if you can’t sleep. Go somewhere else with dim light and do something calm, then come back when you’re sleepy.
